Did you assume that your life would be magically perfect once you finished training?
I know I did.
I fully believed that once I finished my fellowship and became an attending, everything in my life would just fall right into place. Somehow my finances would be simple, my marriage would be great, I would be an amazing mother with well-behaved children, and things would be easy.
Wrong.
So many of us have this illusion. This delusion. It’s called the arrival fallacy. We think that once we reach our goal, everything will be rainbows and butterflies.
But when you think about it, that actually doesn’t make sense. Grinding through years of school and residency and fellowship can create an amazing career. But that singular focus on attaining that career often means that our relationships, self-care and identity outside of medicine fall to the wayside.
So of course everything was not in fact rainbows and butterflies once I finished training. Of course I felt like I was just rinsing and repeating, and staying stuck.
It was up to me to INTENTIONALLY create a personal life as extraordinary as the career I had worked so hard to have.
If this sounds like you, I’d love to guide you in designing the well-rounded life you’ve always wanted. Come check out my coaching programs! Through the combination of evidence-based mindset tools and lots of personal experience, I help high-achieving women in medicine like you go from rinsing and repeating to truly enjoying their amazing lives.
